Your world has crashed down around you and you’re broken. Totally and completely barely living. In despair and have lost all hope to ever feeling normal or happy again. Everyone around you is telling you that you will be o.k., with time the pain will ease and you will be able to start over.
While they mean well and are trying their best to comfort you, no one knows how YOU feel. Your pain is not their pain, and maybe deep down you know they are right, you really don’t want to hear that right now. Right now you want the ache to go away. Right now you want to wake up and wish it was all a bad dream so you can Start Over.
Unfortunately it probably wasn’t all a bad dream, and you have to find some way out of the hole you are in. Listen, nothing is simple right now, but here are 4 suggestions to break things down into easy steps. Go easy on yourself, take your time to heal and Start Over
Control what you can control
In times like these, when everything is overwhelming and your life feels out of control, find some comfort in the little things that you have power over, making it easier to Start Over. If washing a batch of clothes is all you can control, take peace in that. It sounds so simple yet its so true. Your clothes will be clean and you did something for the day. That really is something you can control.
Make your own rules
Guess what? If you want to put pots in your top kitchen cabinets instead of glasses, do it. Run the dishwasher three times to avoid unloading it, so what! You don’t have to “conform to the norms” right now. Anything that makes you feel like you can have a sense of comfort and help you Start Over, do it. Simple things is what is going to help you put your pieces back together.
Fresh air really does help
It may sound cliché but even if you just open a window, or sitting outside can help you begin to feel better. Being in the house all closed up and never venturing outside during this rough time, can lead to you feeling even worse. Fresh air helps stimulate your senses and if you get a little vitamin D in the process, that’s great too. Sometimes taking a ride in the car with the windows down can do the trick to help clear your thoughts as well.
Be mindful of who gets your time right now
Your energy and focus need to remain on you and your healing during this tough season. If you find yourself around people who are always negative or toxic, take a step back for your own mental health. Setting your boundaries doesn’t mean you have to be rude or argumentative, rather you can politely take a break from those folks for awhile. You need peace all around you as you navigate your struggles. No need to give your precious time to anyone who drains you and stops you from being able to Start Over.
Putting the broken pieces of your life back together goes at your own pace and really does take time, so give yourself that gift of time and understanding to get to a Start Over point. We are all here rooting for you, and you are never alone. Keep Freakin’ Going No Matter What!
Are you going through a tough season right now unable to start over? Comment below if you would like to just let us know.